If you’re looking for answers as to why we turn to self deprecation this is not the post for you. These are my thoughts on it.
We cheer each other on.
We try to do our best.
We all see it all the time. Whether it’s with our friends via social media or in real life.
And as ashamed as I am to admit it, I do it as well. Way too much.
Self deprecation is our own worst enemy. We’re already so critical of ourselves and yet these types of thoughts make it even worse.
So, why do we feel the need to belittle ourselves?
Are we searching for compliments from others?
Personally, I’m saying the way I feel or the way I feel people see me. It seems like it’s a great way to talk ourselves down just incase we fail at something or are worried others may be judging us. For instance, just the other day I was a friend’s house and I said, “Well, I’m going to do a plank. It’s probably not going to last long, but I’m gonna do it.”
Why did I need to throw the last part in there?
The same reason I hear people say things like “Don’t look at my arms, my hair, my teeth, my eyes, etc” People are so quick to find the negatives in themselves and then call them out to others about themselves.
I could have just said, “I’m gonna do my plank” and been done with it. No one in that house would have been timing me. And heck, no one would have even noticed I was doing a plank because yes, it’s a normal occurrence for us to just do them whenever we can.
We don’t want others to talk bad about us or down to us, so why do we do it to ourselves?
I’ve got to make sure that I push negative thoughts out of my head. When I feel a thought creeping in, I’ve gotta shut it down and be done with it. (Easier said than done, but I need to realize when I’m doing it.)
Want to take that challenge with me? Have any tips for getting rid of negative thoughts?